We agree. My children are very well-mannered and obedient, especially for this day and time. We just use a different approach to get there. I think expectations play more into it than anything. Children rise to the level of expectations.
I'd say the only difference between our approaches is that for me, obedience means they are ready for more freedom. Disobedience means less freedom. And that has applied from the youngest of ages. We really aren't that different. Just the natural differences in approaches between Moms and Dads. And a little generational stuff.
I thought I'd at least get some kudos for spanking my children when they were younger! ;)
You sound like a good parent and VERY proud of your kids. And it sounds as if you have good reason. Future Freepers? :)
LOL
Kudos for spanking your kids.
I think that the generational thing makes the biggest difference. I'm a year younger than DJ. I was raised much as she was and raised my (step)kids the same way. I wasn't always good, but I was punished. Same with my kids. They both are following the same path.
Parenting is about giving the kids two things -- roots and wings. Roots as a solid foundation and a basis for handling life, and wings as the opportunity to soar to new heights. If either one is missing, life is going to be a lot tougher for them.