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When my husband and I married, I was 19 years old. We decided to start our family right away. We used to tease that we wanted at least 6 kids (in my husbands case, he would have been happier with his own football team). Two long years later, I became pregnant. It was somewhat difficult, but I didn't know enough at the time that for me, it wasn't difficult, it was a miracle! After our son was born, I never even went on birth control, we were ready for whatever God would give us. God had other plans, he gave us two miscarriages, and years of infertility. After 10 more years of trying, we came to the point that if we kept trying (those months of thinking your pregnant, only to be once more disappointed) it would ruin our marriage, and my sanity.

Because I suffered from endometriosis, I was started on Depo Provera shots, which is a form of birth control, and the knowledge that I wasn't pregnant every month became a Godsend to me. We have come to the realization, that for whatever reason, it was a blessing that we had one child, and our one child is a true miracle. And we have the happiest marriage out of anyone I know. My husband is my best friend, and looking back I am grateful for the life I had. I totally understand your feelings of people assuming that everyone is childless by choice. I remember having mere acquaintances asking my young son "When are your Mommy and Daddy gonna give you a brother or sister" and my heart breaking. It was so hard not to be rude to them. I finally got to the point of saying "I guess some things aren't in Gods plans". At that point I made a vow to never, ever ask a child free couple, "So when are you going to start your family".

I remember having mere acquaintances asking my young son "When are your Mommy and Daddy gonna give you a brother or sister" and my heart breaking. It was so hard not to be rude to them.

Er, why the hell should you not be rude to them, given that they were extremely rude to you?

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