[rwfromkansas]

When I get married, which may be soon, we have both decided to wait a few years before kids.

Frankly, there are three reasons for this.

I want to grow closer to my likely spouse and have the first few years just be "us" time.

We absolutely need a few years to save up money....once we have a kid, a big chunk of change will go toward him or her.

I want to wait a few years until I am established in my career and not moving around as much.

Frankly, I could wait until I was 35 (10 years) even.

But, not longer than that.

[guinnessman]

I don't mean to cast any judgments, but be careful, if your wife waits until she is 35, it may be too late for her.

My wife and married when she was 30 and I was 29. After a few years of trying, she decided to get checked out. The doctors determined that she was premenopausal. In other words, it was already too late for her.

I don't mean to scare you, just don't assume that you can wait until a predetermined age to have kids.

[CindyDawg]

There is nothing at all wrong with waiting until you are ready but if one decides to show up early it won't be a disaster:')