Well said. This is one point many, many freepers fail to grasp.
I think we need to look at this a little more closely. Consider what is being taken here: we have a sheriff's deputy, thus someone whose very presence in a situation reflects the state's moral authority to arbitrate in dispute, who wilfully refuses to marry but would rather live like a child with a boy she then has pleasures with.
Clearly, this woman is intentionally immature and selfish, thinking maily of her own pleasure no matter the cost or disgrace. That's casting disrepute on the state (which hardly needs help in generating disrepubility [sic, likely]). It should be a matter of employment policy whether she can keep her job when she openly defies a policy she apparently knew about when she hired on. That's insubordination.
Need I go on?