O Great Mod, this muddled one named Hildy has not gotten the message...cleanup on aisle 40.
In a twelve step program it is suggested that we pray for our enemies. They may actually need the prayers more than your darling wife, as she is the honest one here.
That is a system that has worked for me personally.
Heavenly Father, please allow all of the involved parties to open up their hearts and let your redeeming grace fill them, I ask in Jesus name. Amen