Not this kind of control. Stuff like this isn't going to do anything but make the kid go wild when they turn 18 and are finally out from under Mom's skirt.
Agreed, my wife and I are perfect examples of your comment. My wife was tightly controlled at home, and consequently went nuts her during her 1st year of college away from home. I won't go into details, however, think of everything you can imagine, and you won't be far off.
OTH, I was allowed to have enough rope to hang myself with. Guess what? I never did.
So which parenting styles do we have? Unfortunately, my wife is STILL on board with the Iron fist approach, while I have adopted the rope approach.
With my kids the rope approach works better, and has led to greater trust. They'll tell me stuff they'd never tell Mom about.