We are talking about the double standard with which the media treats alleged public sensitivity transgressions by politicians based solely on their political affiliation.
For an example, compare and contrast the furor over Trent Lott complimenting Strom Thurmond at a private function to the non-furor that failed to erupt when former klansman Byrd referred to "white niggers" on national television.
The NY Times rarely comments on the unknown random person's private comments or internet postings, so those aren't really relevant to the debate.
I have not missed anything at all. I just don't agree with people making a silly non-issue a big issue. But, if it means a sky falling moment or a news of epic proportion, then more power to you.