You are correct .. Jesus said, "If you've seen me you've seen the Father".
I guess that would prove God is not a woman!
As with the son, so with the father. GOD the father was crucified in much the same way as Jesus the son was crucified. By who? The 24 "elders" as mentioned in the Book of Revelation, earlier idea-concept-entities who attacked the 25th in the evolutionary series as crazy, blasphemous, a heretic worth of death. Imagine then GOD's loneliness and despair in the eternal darkness, knowing that only through self sacrifice and faith can creation come about. Remember Jesus saying : only when a seed falls to the ground and dies, can it bring forth new life. The crucifiction then is God the father's final lesson to his son : not my will but thy will be done : only through self sacrifice can NEW LIFE come about. Thus in dying, God, the supreme architect of the universe, by his strong right arm, does what today is called the BIG BANG.