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My son was in two daycares - the nicest thing the storefront one did was to kick him out, that forced us to find a home daycare where the provider treated every child as if it were her own. The individuals who cared for our son at the large operation did their best, but they had too many children to watch.

I have noticed a distinct pattern in the postings on this thread. The most sanctimonious a-holes are the ones without children. My wife and I looked very hard at our financial condition before she got pregnant and we would have been bankrupt very quickly if she had not gone back to work. The major cost issue was health insurance - family coverage costs a LOT more than employee or employee and one dependent.

I would be willing to bet that none of the jerks excoriating the mother has ever lost a child for any reason. Those of us who have know that she is in a very special Hell already. Parents who lose children despite every effort humanly possible still go through an extremely painful grieving process; I can barely imagine how much worse it must be for a parent who is responsible for the death of their child.

My son was in two daycares - the nicest thing the storefront one did was to kick him out, that forced us to find a home daycare where the provider treated every child as if it were her own. The individuals who cared for our son at the large operation did their best, but they had too many children to watch.

My wife and I have a similar arrangement. We have a mother of three children watch our youngest. They live just down the street from us. Our oldest goes to a great pre-school set back on a decent parcel of land. The school has farm animals (chickens, roosters, lamb, goats, and a couple of pigs), which the children help feed every day. The registration is limited so the ratio of students to teachers is kept low; the grounds are well maintained and secure; and the administrator is a cast-iron B, which I certainly appreciate. My wife and I are active with the parents guild and have enjoyed building several friendships with other parents.

"I would be willing to bet that none of the jerks excoriating the mother has ever lost a child for any reason. Those of us who have know that she is in a very special Hell already. Parents who lose children despite every effort humanly possible still go through an extremely painful grieving process; I can barely imagine how much worse it must be for a parent who is responsible for the death of their child."

Well said. I'm sorry for your loss.