[ican'tbelieveit]

I know you are going to catch a lot of flack for your comment, but I completely agree with you. As a single mom that made bad choices early and had to work to feed my kids and not having the choice to stay home with my kids for those first few years, I know what I missed.

If there is a breadwinner, one parent should make every effort to stay home with their child(ren). If you even just stay home until you put them in school, that is 5 years. Five years is nothing, give up those years of income, and the rewards will be immeasurable.

I am raising my kids with that value. Go to school, get a job, live some life, save. Then, when you are stable & secure, have kids.

And finally, if possible, if you do find yourself in a situtaion where this isn't possible, live near family.

[yellowdoghunter]

I could not have said it better myself. And please know that I realize that sometimes things happen and people have to do what they have to do. But the point about living near family is one that cannot be said enough.

And just think what a great life your children are going to have being raised with those values, and also your grandchildren. God bless you.

I can handle the flack....:) What is most amazing is how far people will go to stick up for this mother, with not a word about how the child suffered and suffered, and screamed and screamed and is now dead. The mother may suffer the rest of her life, but she is still alive!