[Natural Law]

There is a difference between failing and being a failure. If he did everything and failed, he can hold his head up because he and God know the truth and someday so will the child. If, on the other hand, he didn't give the last full measure for the benefit of your child, if he at any time put his own comfort, happiness and well being ahead of that you the child, if he left anything on the table, he is a failure and won't get any sympathy from me.

[caver]

That's well said.