My first wife was raped when she was 16. Bottled it up inside. After 10 years of marriage it started to come out. She was deathly afraid of any man, to include me. Wouldn't get help.
Eventually, after we divorced, she found a girlfriend, sued me, alleging that my second wife and I were going to molest the children, and ran me enough legal hoops that I consumed my savings. I moved away after not seeing the kids for 2 years. That moving away at least kept her from being stressed out about me all the time.
So long as I am not around, she is pretty sane. I am raising my kids from the second marriage. Not happily ever after, but the kids are smart, and making good progress.
Whoa! You've been through a lot. Be praying for things to turn happier for you.