Then I guess my wife and I and many other couples we know are highly unusual. I'm sorry about whatever experiences you've had to make you such a sour person, but things aren't nearly as bad as you paint them. I haven't needed a "mommy" since I left home for college (and yes, I've bought all my own underwear), but I HAVE had periods of illness when my wife had to "clean up my messes"--just as she has had similar periods when I had to do so. It goes with being married.
>I'm sorry about whatever experiences you've had to make you such a sour person,<
I'm not sour. I've just observed a lot, and seen people put up with some weird relationships. I knew two sisters who were married to men they hardly spoke to for decades, and after these men died, both sisters waxed nostalgic for how "good" their relationships were-AFTER one left her husband unmoving in a chair for a couple days with pneumonia (someone who stopped by called an ambulance) and the other initially told people the day the husband died was the happiest day of her life. Neither relationship was violent or verbally abusive.
I don't think either party is benefitted by such relationships.
Even more extremely, I know two coworkers (not relatives, and not close friends) who survived murder attempts by a fiance/husband.
There are worse states than being single, and one of them is being with someone who loathes you or might even try to kill you.