Thanks for the long post, but it's off-base. I initially thought that Ann Coulter was complaining they were lying by saying Coulter said they enjoyed it, which is ridiculous because she did say that. That's not a point of conflict--Ann Coulter says they enjoyed it, I agree that Ann Coulter says they enjoyed it. You may rationalize that however you like, I personally think it's horribly gauche, but that's neither here nor there. It ends out that Coulter's really complaining they're lying by saying she lambasted the whole lot of widows, which actually by all of the evidence I've seen is not true.
So, you reject the observation that these women, the four "Jersey Girls," are benefiting from their husband's deaths? You reject it because the use of the word "enjoy" is
gauche?
Ah, the logic of the foolish or willfully ignorant.
The phrase that used to apply here was "useful idiot."
Address my argument please. Examine the word "enjoy" and apply the most likely definition to what is actually happening in the real world. Then imagine (if you can) what a truly well educated and literate writer (of best selling books) who is an expert on rhetoric and logic (as well as polemics) would mean. Do not try to apply public education ingrained knee jerk reactions to this topic, nor the lower standard of the drive by media (if a conservative says it it's bad).
Think.
Honestly ask the question: are these women deriving benefit from (one of the dictionary definitions of "enjoy") their husband's deaths? If you can refute that contention in any reasonable fashion then I'll listen. If you choose merely to say "she's mean and I won't address what you posted" then we're done.
Again, your instincts to defer to these people are correct and laudable. That is an honest emotional response to this issue, but it is only that, an emotional response. You cannot defend their actions in any way, shape or form. You can attack Ann Coulter as insensitive, but you cannot say that she is wrong. They are enjoying (the benefits of) their husband's deaths. It's brutal, but true. Given that undeniable fact I don't believe that they deserve your solicitude, however well intentioned.
I think you owe Ann an apology. Truth is always a valid defense.