It has nothing to do with gender- it is your responsibility to pick a reasonable person to marry and have children with. If you choose not to, don't expect the courts to wave a magic wand to make a jerk not a jerk or a b*tch not a b*tch. A spouse who is willing to spare no expense to be vindictive can often be beyond the power of the courts to control. In addition, that person is your child's other parent for life- they can't divorce him or her.
This is absurd.
If we had crystal balls, or we could read minds, or have some kind of magic happy dust that we could use to know the future, or see how people ARE GOING TO change and what they will change into, then I'd agree with you.
But since none of that exists, and we have to go with what we've got, this whole line of reasoning is just as dumb as dirt.
Tell me - do you have any control over how your spouse changes over the years in mental outlook ? The answer is no.
Don't make the mistake of assuming that a decision like who to marry, made with the best of intentions in your early 20s (or thereabouts), can possibly be 100% guaranteed to hold up over 20,40,60 years of marriage. If it does, that's great, but despite the best intentions of many, marriages do fail.
The courts should not facilitate one spouse's ability to ruin another's life, not to mention the kids'.
My home was a broken home. The other parent can near divorce the child, by neglect, and by lavishing time, energy, love, on the non-biologically related other family he or she gloms on to. Actions have consequences. My absent parent is finding that out. "His" boys don't want her. Fed up, I don't either. She's on her own. Good luck! :-D
It should be an 11th commandment to take care of your own biological children EXCLUSIVELY. Sad that such common sense should have to be enumerated.
My recommendation would be to enact a law saying that the married without children can divorce anytime, but, and except in cases of physical and or psychological abuse, married with children cannot divorce UNTIL the youngest child is 21. What a shitty world we live in.
BTW I enjoy a great deal the new show that is out: shalom in the home, on TLC the learning channel, on Monday nights. This guy is on to something.