And yes, it seems that fake child abuse allegations are common enough in these proceedings, but the court's hands are tied. Child abuse allegations need to be investigated by law - it would be irresponsible for the court not to investigate and it would be irresponsible to not suspend custody during the investigation.
How do you solve the dilemma? Criminal charges against people who bring false allegations will discourage people from bringing lots of legitimate allegations that are difficult to prove.
But what's the bottom line? - we have husbands who have either (1) married women who are insane or who have no moral compass or (2) managed to treat a woman so poorly that she is willing to accuse him of abuse in order to get him out of her and her children's lives.
90% of these cases would never happen if the husband was more careful and less stupid in choosing a spouse or, alternatively, was able to stay faithful to the spouse he chose.
I have zero sympathy for any husband who cheats on his wife. He deserves pretty much any outcome he gets. And I absolutely consider unfaithfulness to a child's mother child abuse.
"I have zero sympathy for any husband who cheats on his wife. He deserves pretty much any outcome he gets. And I absolutely consider unfaithfulness to a child's mother child abuse."
Today it's just as likely the woman will be cheating on the man... Do you consider that child abuse as well? (I thought not)
Here we go again. It the woman is a b*tch, its his fault for marrying her. If something goes wrong, its his fault for everything.
Its all the 'males' fault.
Tell me, why do you hate men so much?
You have a bad experience?
Wow...this really hits home with me because I am with a man who went through a terrible divorce with false accusations.
Yes, the court should err on the side of investigating. But realistically what happens is, like in our case, she made alligations just before major court decisions....far enough to get the allegations on the record, too close to have them properly investigated, and then refuted, before major decisions like custody and alimony are settled.
Should she have known she was nuts? Could he have been nicer, sweeter etc. of course. But to pay financially for the rest of his life? When she was the one who broke up the family and walked away? If she is unfulfilled and wants a chance at something "more"...fine...have your midlife crisis and move on. But to punish the kids without access to Dad while this *#*$*#^ get s worked out...and even worse making HIM pay your for the priviledge of breaking up the family? Not fair in my book.
If these guys are so horrible, and these feminists are so empowered as to not put up with it, why do they keep leaning on the men for the money? Child support I get...we all owe that...but alimony? Please.
Exactly. Probably more like 99.9%.
How do you solve the dilemma?
When the investigation is complete, and abuse allegations are found to be false, disbar the lawyers presenting them and throw the accuser in jail. In other words, if you make the allegation, you'd better have proof.