yes - in male form. It's equally bad. Life got much better when he decided to split.
I understand your point but what we don't know is, were their political views the same as their husbands, ie might their husbands have approved of their use of this opportunity ? I sure don't know and I'm pretty sure Ann doesn't either.
That said, nothing Ann wrote detracted from the truth of her observation about unasssailable spokesmen from the left.
The violent death of a loved one can make harridans of any of us.
My father was murdered many years ago. I used his death by building tributes to him in the form of service agancies and resource centers dedicated to the people he served. There is a natural progression in this that is appropriate and normal. Becoming a partisan hack, however, does nothing to elevate the memory of a loved one lost to tragedy.