[singfreedom]

This is so incredibly insightful, I can't believe it. My family, almost all of us, spent MONTHS in therapy after my wonderful, beloved brother-in-law was......murdered. Even now, YEARS later, I still have so much pain, and dread, it stabs me in the gut, when I finally am FORCED to use the word. And it is true, when I reflect on it, of every other family member we've lost in a painful or lingering way.

I, too, cannot even imagine how a person, of any sensibility, could so coldly describe, in Technicolor, the death of a loved one. It's like telling people your loved one was one of those who jumped from the WCT and died when they hit the pavement below! Normal minds just don't process that way.

[singfreedom]

Should read: "WTC". Sorry, I'm still rattled.

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

Condolences.

Psalm 116:15 -- Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.

http://www.biblegateway.com/

[Dianna]

I, too, cannot even imagine how a person, of any sensibility, could so coldly describe, in Technicolor, the death of a loved one.

But that is the whole point! Once she says, "My husband BURNED to death", you are supposed to shut up. That is why they say it. It is a reminder of how she has suffered and it isn't polite to challenge suffering people with hard questions.

I haven't read Ann's book yet nor did I read the Jersey Girls' full statement. But it sounds like Ann wrote about them personally instead of refuting their ridiculous attacks on W. But instead of responding back to her, they renewed their attacks on W, and then threw in the burning comment to, again, shut everyone up. Typical.

[Dianna]

I am sorry for your loss. I hope there was, at least, someone caught and prosecuted.

[IIntense]

Normal minds just don't process that way.

You are right. Both of my parents have died, along with ten of my aunts and uncles, and many neighbors. No one who was with them discusses the details of their dying moments.

Just a few months ago my younger brother died at his home. I last spent time with him a day and a half before that. (I live in another state.)

His wife did not go into every graphic detail of what occurred that morning...just enough for me, his sister, to be informed. I won't ask her to relive this pain, for her sake and mine.

I'm thinking that "normal" people treat such sadness as mostly private and want dignity for the person who died.

I'm not sure if the Jersey women deserve to be crucified for the "burned alive" comment. They obviously believe the U.S. Gov't. could have prevented this attack. How sure are the rest of us?