"what do you do in a situation like that?"
I don't know. Nobody knows unless you are there. That's why we need to give them the benefit of the doubt. I mean, we have females martyring themselves. Just because you are female doesn't give you a pass on ROE. We have to take a deep breath, and hope for rationality, rather than hysteria.
Exactly, IMHO if there is doubt as to what happened you always should err on the side of the troops.