Well, you can thank your lucky stars that you didn't grow up in a war zone, and thus be forced to make minute-to-minute survival decisions just make it all the way through puberty.
Ah, there you are. You sure got quiet all of a sudden. I was getting worried.
She was not making minute to minute decisions for her family sake....her parents were! - And if they choose house insurgents, or help insurgents plant LOS IEDs...then they are fully responsible along with those insurgents.
And "there but for the grace of God go I" can be said by billions of people each day. That is no excuse.