On a much different plain, it's like the Libby case: "Oh, he didn't lie." Well, he did. It's better to deal from reality and truth rather than wishes and hopes.
I was told last night I was dishonoring the memory of a dead Vietnam vet by stating that three commanders had been relieved in the wake of the incident, and that no one is guilty of anything, no matter what the evidence shows.
You may as well save yourself some grief.