God hates divorce. Even if two people are no longer "in love", if they have integrity, are not self-centered, and stay true to their marital promises, I think a finer, deeper and more induring love results. But it takes two dedicated people to attain this. I have been divorced very early in my life before I gave my life to Christ, because if I didn't I don't think I would still be among the living. There are reasons why divorce is acceptable by God. And there are far worse states than being single. Unfortunately, you are right, the divorce statistics among Christians are nearly on a par with the secular world. We have all been tainted by Society's destructive example. That is why thirsting for God's Word is more important than ever. There are Christians, and then there are Christians. No where will anyone of them find advice more valuable than the words of Jesus, especially now that Satan is taking the gloves off in his final effort. As a couple, as a family, read Ephesians 6:10-18 every morning.
I do not claim all divorce wrong, as I know you do not as well. Divorce is always sad, but the Bible is clear about acceptable divorce for those who claim to be BELIEVERS. If a NON-Believer wishes to leave, let them leave, and adultery is Biblically acceptable grounds.
I am bothered by those who claim the belive the Bible to be the inspired Word of God, yet lean on this, "But, Jesus understands how I feel" crap, when it is 180 degrees opposite of what Christ SAID about the subject.
And sadly, the Church of today is not helping very much, due to a watered-down approach that allows people who divorce their spouses without Bibical ground, to remain members in good standing.