You are exactly right. One of my best friends got into an arguement with his hell-cat of a wife. She punched him, pushed him through a window, cutting his arm wide open. He didn't lay a finger on her. Guess who got arrested? Guess who was taken to jail? Guess who has to go to court-ordered Anger Management classes? (at $60 bucks a class). His wife? Not hardly.
I just don't get that at all. I've read articles before that state that he must have done something to cause the violence from her, it just maddening.