I agree with you that they're not equivalent, and please don't think that I'm opposing the Iraq War.
But I do think that regardless of what you think of a specific government policy, you are obligated to support your country against its enemies in time of war -- with the sole exception of a few most extreme circumstances. There are exceptions to that, such as Stalin, such as Hitler, but they are rare exceptions. We may not care for Bill Clinton or his policies, but he was no Hitler.
Well, I agree with what you said for the most part. I would not have protested the NATO bombings while our soldiers were in harms way. However, in retrospective I think that one can examine the wisdom of past military action.
Unlike most of the left, I do not equate outward protests to be the same as patriotism.
Only because of a lack of means and opportunity, not from motive or want.