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Don;t get me wrong - I value marriage and the marriage vows. I dislike divorce immensely, not so much for the adults but when kids are involved.

All that being said, it pays to have a mature view of things. Adultery happens and it's not always because the adulterer is a bad person. I don;t think adultery has as much to do with morality as it does with opportunity and emptiness. I think when most spouses sat 'trust me,' they really mean it. Many of the ones that cheat were just wrong when they said 'trust me,' they didn't lie. Or if anything, they were lying to themselves.

It's bad business, but I don't think it's the end of the world like some Freepers do. I have been told that adultery is among the worst things a person can do to another person. Some say it should be a criminal matter. I've read long winded posts telling me how deeply terrible it is, and how it should mandate the cheater's fair share of the marital property.

As for me, I wouldn't want to stay with someone who didn't want to be with me. Go for it. I'll feel pain for a short while, give her the fair share of money that's hers, then I'll recover. I have the rest of my life to make the money back, plus I get to date women who want to be with me. Maybe even settle down again with one. What's so bad about that?