I merely said that he's selfish. You'll be hard-pressed to find a value judgement in that at all. No, actually you said:
More likely: I'm selfish and unwilling to compromise even on minor things.
"Merely" would mean "and unwilling to compromise even on minor things" didn't follow "I'm selfish." No one is hard pressed to find a value judgment there. What are you, a wannabe lawyer?
Noting someone's unwillingness to compromise is hardly a value judgement either, and although it doesn't necessarily follow selfishness, it does [most likely] follow an inability to find a compatible mate in 30+ years of looking. Considering he admits to having looked for that long (for how could he have "not found" something he hadn't been looking for), and with the huge pool of eligible single women from which to choose--it seems like a reasonable assessment.
I'll disregard the ad hominem aspect of your reply (assuming comparing one to a lawyer is a negative thing in your book--for all I know you intended no value judgement either :-P ).
Have a beautiful day.