Uh, my dad, who flew for TWA for 35 years, and who taught me to fly, disagrees with you.
Dad's pucker factor while using a flashlight to determine the health of his 707 while carrying a full load of PAX would have still allowed him to laugh it off?
(Not after the fact: Everyone jokes about the near miss or reserve 'chute....but while it's happening and there is no promise of an afterwards to make jokes in...I'd rather my pilot was a bit worried...!/?)
(Connies maybe, but you're not that old)