You attack me because I have accepted responsibility for "ourselves" (wife of 38 years) and worked towards being as financial sufficient as we could and then you claim to know that we have never been through a "major tragedy". You don't have a clue mam or sir, what ever the case may be. And no I am not going to share the challenges my wife and I have faced on a public board with you. I know where you are coming from and I get that all the time. Like you, I am not the type to air my dirty laundry in public and in fact, I prefer to talk about the good things that go on in my life. Therefore, because of my positive attitude, everybody around me assumes that, unlike them, I have a "perfect life" and thus I cannot possibly know what they are going through because I "never had to deal with tragedy or unfortunate events" in my life.
It's an assumption that people are quick to make about those who don't sit around bitching and complaining all the time about how life has done them wrong.
Exactly. Not many of us reaching retirement age have not had adversities to face and some quite challenging. I as you much prefer to accentuate the positive and made a point of changing my rhetoric a long while back to the point of using words like challenges rather than problems. I survived being bitter and full of resentments and have no desire to return there to. There is far to much to look forward to in life and death than to dwell upon adversity.
Thanks for sharing an understanding of from where I was coming. I like your attitude. /;-)