One of my neighbors just came back from a year in Iraq. Her husband was ex-military that joined the reserves beause he heard they were to be deplayed. He was +40 and had fought it GW1. Anyway, his wife was a rock when he was gone. She raised two teen daughters for a year solo. She held the household together. She also lead a support group. It brought tears to my eyes when I thought of the sactrified they suffered. Meanwhile at work today the libs were once again talking about an illegal Iraq war and that GWB was nano-meters from being impeached. Guess who my heart went out to...
There's a book out that talks about warriors and warriors spouses called FM R-U-1-2. Wasn't an official book but it did make it's way around in the '80s.