It is too bad, isn't it? I certainly agree that it's upsetting to realize one has passed the peak of one's physical beauty. Being quite nearsighted, I once thought for two years that the sun was lightening some of the strands of my hair. Then one day I happended to look into a mirror with my glasses on and got a terrible shock. I took to my bed with a box of Kleenex and a pint of chocolate-chip ice cream (calories don't count when you're crying).
FWIW, I Like gray hair on a woman.