That's fair enough. Seems to me she's saying she didn't want to die.
"You know that shelf?" she asked. She meant a mirror-backed knickknack cabinet in the entry of the Post house in Baghdad. For one reason or another, it had become a place to put photos of close friends killed over the nearly three years of war in Iraq.
The cabinet had three shelves. Two of the shelves already held a photo, both of them, coincidentally, of young women.
"I kept thinking about that shelf," Carroll said. "I didn't want to be that third shelf."
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