You worked in one of those ratholes? My condolences. LOL
It was my "shore job" for those years. Can't raise kids when you have to spend most of your time running a ship out in the tall water.
I would imagine sea captains end up becoming the worst parents. You can't be a dad and be offshore for months at a time, or at least, I couldn't. I had to get shore work and that was the best I could come up with.