All image, no substance; all bark, no bite; all hat, no cattle; paper tiger. Pick your colloquialism.
Not discriminating against homosexuals in an employment context is fine. I'll take a more productive Big Gay Al over a less productive Chuck Norris any day of the week.
Just because people don't instantly hate any gay person they meet doesn't mean that the world is falling apart. Voters draw the line when it comes to making legal changes to accomodate homosexuals. Hell, not even the blue states could pull together enough votes to introduce gay marriage into law. It happened in Kennedy-and-Kerry land by judicial fiat, and there's a constitutional amendment in the works to overrule that decision.
So no, I'm not worried. Brokeback Mountain floundered at the box office. Queer Eye's popularity can be attributed to novelty and nothing more (that Carthon is thooo thilly!). I guess that makes me not-homophobic, because I don't fear gays. I can't tell you whether or not you are; I can tell you that any fear you may have of the gay agenda is unfounded because that agenda isn't going anywhere.
I, too, believe that the pendulum is finally swinging the other direction; away from culturally-pressured acceptance of homosexuality.
Your definition of homophobia; not fearing the progress of the homsexual agenda; is an interesting one. It is traditionaly defined as simply opposing the homosexual agenda.
I'll concede your points regarding the fading star of homosexual popularity, but I'll maintain my dismay that our culture allowed it to progress as far as it has.