OK,
I'm talking totally clincially here, from lots of sources...personal, professional, etc. It's a dark place and I ain't saying it's right, good or normal.
My guess is this chick was molested early by someone that she felt helpless around. Then she married her hubby and OOPS, she married someone that she felt powerless around too. So sex was this feeling of being trapped-- paralysed.
Along comes this boy and she feels that rush that SHE isn't helpless around him. HE will do what she wants. It flips. She's no longer the victim. Now she can be what she never was before. The adult making the rules and calling the shots. Even so, it wasn't about sex, it was about her being the one making the kid do for her as she had been the kid doing for the adult.
It probably was the biggest rush of her life. Better than anything she had with her hubby. But it wasn't sex, it was power.
Honestly, I don't think she felt a thing other than that rush you get when you actually control the demon that has tortured you your whole life. Believe me, it's ugly, but that is why the molested often become molested. It's a short in the wiring.
Funny, but you now talk about the boy's emotions. I thought it was the girls who got all emotional about sex ;)
Has her hubby ever commented on this? Just morbidly curious I guess. I would think it would be a real downer for him to find out he was second fiddle to a 14 year old boy. How do the guys on this thread think he is feeling? Is he having fond memories of it all also? Are his buds giving him high 5s at the office?
Oh, no -- boys have emotions too!
I cried when the Cowboys won the Superbowl!
Seriously, tho -- you're guessing. That is possible. Altho it's also possible it happened a hundred other ways.
Maybe the hubby had just cheated on her, and she wanted revenge. Mabye the hubby travelled, and she was lonely. Maybe the hubby was a jerk, or was just not interested in sex.
Or maybe it wasn't his fault at all. Maybe she's just a total hedonist, who knows no limits, and it felt good so she did it. Or maybe she really likes goats, but couldn't find one!
This is all speculation, we just don't know.
I'll just say I'm unhappy with calling both boys and girls who *seek out sex with adults* "victims".
Like when a slut teenage girl decides she's going to go get nailed by a rock star. She goes to his hotel room, drops her clothes, and they do the deed. Is she a 'victim'???
I'm just not willing to say that.
I listened to the taped phone calls.
She sounded like she was a junior high school kid herself.
It sounded -- to me -- like she liked the excitement of youthful crushes and did not want to grow up and have an adult relationship --- and especially not the responsibility of an adult relationship: kids, bills, money, etc.