Didja ever think you might be doing a little projecting here ... assuming that your ethics and standards are common to everyone.
I, for one, don't think that living in a world where
He might not tell his bride, in fear of her being upset.
is a good basis for starting a lifelong commitment. Or that on my wedding day I was fondly remembering any of my previous sexual encounters
He *will* remember it at his wedding day, and for the rest of his life -- fondly.
Another sign post in your world:
I just don't believe you can call this boy a 'victim', I'm sorry.
In your world there is no way this kid can be a victim because:
1. She was attractive
2. He was a male
and we all know (you're projecting again) that guys are different than gals. One of the biggest differences is how we feel about sex.
What I'm reading between the lines here is that, in your world, the "guys" can't keep their zippers up and the "gals" that don't require them to will be "fondly remembered".
Sounds to me like a pretty shallow world, I'll think stick with mine.
Ah -- i see the misunderstanding then.
No, I'm actually the one blaming the boy. He is no "victim", in my opinion. He knew what he was doing, and he willingly took part. Like when a kid goes and gets drugs from a dealer. The kid is not a 'victim', he's a 'perpetrator'.
I'm saying I hate when people act like 14 year old boys are 'victims' of older women.