If someone molested either one of my children,
male or female at 14,
I'd be in jail for beating them to death.
Either there is a line,
or there isn't.
Either all kids are precious,
or we let them all go.
Either we treat them the same,
or we give them (and their predators) twisted, mixed messages that will screw up their lives.
I respect your feelings.
But I believe in treating boys and girls differently, when they are different.
And they *are* different about sex. If this were my son, I would not in any way consider him a 'victim'.
The fact that men and women are different is not a "mixed message".