Biblical references to warfare are descriptive and historical, not active exhortations to murder others. From my own knowledge and from the comments of Biblical scholars, I am quite confident that you will not find such material in the Bible. Koranic references that are exhortations to mistreat and murder nonMuslims are legion. Many have been quoted on FR.
I have family who are Muslim converts and have studied Islam to some extent. I cannot claim a high level of expertise in the subject, but in my experience, truly "moderate" Muslims are largely casual, inactive Muslims.
People outside and inside the faith must certainly "ask" devout Muslims to act differently. Murderous, terroristic behavior will not be tolerated. I believe a change can and will happen, perhaps after much bloodshed.