Goys can only convert to Judaism with 100 percent freewill just as a Jewish woman can only marry a Jewish woman with only 100 percentage freewill with absolutely no coercion in order for the marriage to be halachically valid under Torah.
Ok.
What I meant by control issues, is that both Jewish males and females seem to want submisive partners. You, seem to be happy that your goy girlfriend is submissive and let's you be the boss. However, you look down on Jewish women who apparently wants the same thing.
As a Christian, the wife is to be submissive to the husband, but that in no way means less then. I don't know what the Jewish faith requires of the wife, but I suspect it would be similar.
I'm not trying to "dis" your culture, just trying to make an observation.
Sincerely