Posted on 03/17/2006 9:54:54 AM PST by Abathar
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Except we aren't talking about all military, are we? We are talking about military folks who were either 1)never married (which is detrimental to having a healthy family) or 2) divorced (which means the family that they had wasn't very healthy).
So I'll agree that a person with an unhealty family situation, who happens to be in the military, may not be the ideal parent.
And now I'm out of here for a good while, but if you want to continue, I'll be happy to pick it back up when I return to the computer.
So, for the sake of argument, the man who leaves the US in service to his country, in good faith, and has a wife left at home who decides for whatever reason, that she's had enough and files for divorce, should then be penalized BY the goevernment which he serves for his choice to serve our country by losing custody of his kids as well??
So, you prefer the alternative, which is being raised by one parent and excluding the other?
And which branch were you in?
I was never in the military and I'm too old to go in now (if they would even want me).
Actually it is the ex-wife.
Be sure to work to keep that judge from being re-elected.
Thanks for the discussion. FRegards.
If the divorce happens after he's already deployed (or committed), that's certainly a reasonable exception to that I said. But if he's already separated and still goes off for an extended time, he should expect less of a relationship. I respect his sacrifice, and he certainly shouldn't lose all his time with his kids, but it's probably in the best interest of the kids to remain with their mother if they've been with her full-time for a year.
I guess I just disagree. If dad has to be gone for a while -- or mom -- because of their service, kids understand that. But to deny custody -- even in partiality -- when they return is unfair to both the child AND the parent. The government is denying the returning parent an opportunity for relationship. And FWIW, I prefer an all-male military. But it's not the reality, and I respect the women who choose to serve.
I usually stay out of these threads, since it's really just an unfortunate situation however it works out. There are valid points on either side.
I do believe that any court action would be deferred until the serving parent is home.
Tell it to the judge, honey...best interests of the child, and all that.
Ex-husbands?
'pears, though, that he HAD gone away and was just sending a check...... Some men prefer it.
Your comment assumes no person was ever involuntarily divorced.
Amen. Let's go get coffee....
LOL -- me too!!
My phrasing was bad, sorry- I meant that it is probably better for the child if the parents share custody rather than the child being transferred suddenly from father to mother.
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