A man I "should" have married died on Saturday and his funeral was yesterday in Baton Rouge, LA. He was very unhappily married for the past 4 years as his wife developed dementia a year after they were married. I feel so badly for him - only one year of happy marriage before having to live with a screamer.
Then again, he made me nervous because he wanted to get married too quickly, and I'm positive that's what he did with this woman. I have to wonder if there weren't early signs of her problems but he didn't give himself time to find out?
Anyway, I feel so badly for him......for what he had to put up with for the past 4 years and the guy was the salt of the earth.
I'll probably stop drinking here shortly. I think it's depressing me, along with that interview, remembering my wild and crazy 70's and 80's. Then I think I became "too reasonable" and too responsible. Backlash.
Excuse me - I'm going to go pour this drink down the drain. I've become moribund. No more alcohol today.
Hey, Pal, you know your Irish heart is made to be broken; a sad truth that all who are Irish know is true. But, we manage to laugh and smile and face the trials of each day anew in spite of it.
So prayers up for you and for your friend, [may his soul rest in peace] but don't pour all the alcohol down the drain as there is no better way for an Irishman to celebrate the passing of a friend than to raise a glass [or two] of "cheer" in their honor.
Hey Truth,
I'm sorry you lost a friend and my thoughts are w you.
I understand your reluctance to get married too quickly - -I've been there myself before. There were also 1 or 2 guys I probably 'should' have married and didn't. While it's easy to do, especially if we care about someone, we can't blame ourselves for the choices and path others take. You seem like a very caring and compassionate person, so I certainly understand your sadness in your friend's unhappiness.
I also sometimes get a little down on myself for things I 'should' have done, but, I've tried to look at it as right or wrong, I made the best choice for me at the time, with the information I had as well as my feelings and situation in life at the time (job, family, etc.).
I look back now, and, at times wish I were married, but, I also have to look at it, while the grass often seems to be greener on the other side, it could have been a really bad marriage, regardless how hard I tried. And, perhaps, more importantly, I think while I make my own choices, God also has a plan for me, and, these guys and my marriage to one of them, was not in the 'greater plan'. Maybe one of these days the 'plan' will change and the man of my dreams will come along. In the interim, knowing full well that I've made some mistakes along the way, I've tried to learn from those mistakes; and, I try to be happy with what I have and what I've done. I try to think about what I can do, and not what I should have done (not always easy).
Prayers up to you and your friend.
I don't recall the exact saying, but, it's something to the effect of: God answers all our prayers, we just don't always know they're really being answered at the time.
Best,
SC