[Old_Mil]

We men already have that option. It's called "not banging her in the first place". Works every time it's tried, and you don't need to go through a court battle to do it.

Courts have ordered men to pay child support in cases where married women have had affairs and gotten pregnant with other men. Courts have ordered men to pay child support to single mothers with single mothers who they have started dating and have never married. Unfortunately given the currently legal system, it's not nearly as simple as you might imagine.

The goal of the current family law system is to extort as much money as possible from men, and give it to women.

[JamesP81]

The goal of the current family law system is to extort as much money as possible from men, and give it to women.

Succinctly and accurately put. It's a shame really. I want to get married some day but because of how things are these days, I always have to automatically assume the worst about any lady I meet until I know for certain she's not that way.

[ChildOfThe60s]

Yep. There is absolutely nothing pro-child about the system. Its methods and goals are punative and anti-male.

If the system were truly for the children, there would be some enforceable stipulations about what the mother does with the "child support". There are myriad cases where the woman supports her boyfriend and such with child support money and the courts have smacked down the protests of the father from whom the money is being extorted.

For years my wife and I, along with my wife's mother, have bought all of my niece's clothes because her mother lives on the child support as if it were alimony, having nothing left to clothe her daughter.

If the courts were so damn concerned about the kids, they'd make the mothers produce some evidence that the money is indeed being spent on the child's needs.

[Always Learning]

"The goal of the current family law system is to extort as much money as possible from men, and give it to women."

Oh, yes. In virtually every case of child support that I've seen the child support is way in excess of the money needed to support the kid. The parent with custody usually just hires a nanny and goes off to party with the tax-free largesse.

Or are you saying that, since the father really didn't want the kid, or was fooled, he shouldn't have to support it but the public should through welfare?

[juliej]

Excuuuuse me: how many men do not support their kids and walk out on them? Obviously, you have a big chip on your shoulder against the mother of your children!