Hi Kenth. I have something to contribute to this thread and your post seemed to be a good place to do so. :)
I will write from the point of view of a woman who has always been anti-abortion (though thought that there should be exceptions) and had to deal with the situation personally.
I've been married for over 20 years - to the same man. At one point in our marriage, we separated for a couple years due to immaturity and assorted stupidity. Luckily we grew up! We were getting to a point where getting back together was likely and then something happened that had a major impact on us both as well as our 3 children. I was raped and became pregnant.
As I said, I have always been anti-abortion. From a young age, it was a given that killing a baby was wrong. God forgive me, but I seriously considered having an abortion for about 3 days after getting a positive on that pregnancy test. I decided against that, and thought about giving the baby up for adoption. Somewhere in there, I talked to my mother-in-law and husband about what had happened, not sure how far along i was at that point. (neither of them were even in the same state as I was at the time) I think about 5 months. By the time I was 8 months, I had decided to keep the baby thanks to my husband telling me that whichever decision I made, he would be okay with it. He had massive guilt and couldn't see telling me which decision to make.
Anyway, that child is loved by both of his parents (my husband and I) and all of his siblings (we have 7 living children and have lost 8) I cannot see telling another woman that she HAS to bear a child conceived from rape but I would not take her to a clinic or otherwise condone or suggest it to her. It is murdering an innocent little one no matter how you look at it. Yes, it was hard mentally and emotionally to go through pregnancy, and I had more than a few times where i thought I had made the wrong decision when I looked at that baby and saw features that reminded me of the rapist. But the healing that our whole family has gone through, the strength of the marriage bond and parental bonds.. We are made stronger by that which doesn't kill us.
Maybe if the event had been more physically violent, I would have made a different decision, I don't know. The fact that I even thought about abortion at all startled me and scared me. I'm glad I didn't make that choice, I would have missed out on a very funny and loving child whose conception helped bring my family together stronger than before. We may be poor financially speaking, but we have riches beyond belief when it comes to what's really important.
Anyway, that's my story and I don't know if it was even something I needed to post.
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I praise God for all the healing and reconciliation that has come to you through your very painful trials.
It was good that you posted that.
However, your basic instinct was correct: that is a child, no less than any other child.
And so, although it is tempting to allow an exception for rape, it's wrong. You did the right thing, and have the benefit of it. But the law should not allow the wrong thing as an option.