I see women make AWFUL choics about men all the time. Can't count the number of attractive women I know who aren't interested in the nice, clean-cut, hard working types, but are also always complaining about the thugs with whom they hook up. I think part of it is an excitement thing. I don't get the rest of it.
Anymore, I just tune their complaining out.
And then when things go to crud, they are just shocked, SHOCKED. And sometimes "goes to crud" includes nightmares like this story. But in a little while they do the same thing and hook up with the same types of thugs.
Also know guys who do the flip side: Keep after the very attactive but whacked-out women, complain about them, all while ignoring the reasonably attractive nice ones.
What's driving this? Where did our culture go so wrong?
Where did our culture go wrong? It got rich and young folks don't have to work, it is illegal for them to work, for the most part, until they are well into natural adulthood.There is no cultural need for arranged marriages. Families do not negotiate and select for reasons of making "good" or just profitible marriages. When the partners select for themselves then irrational criteria become paramount. When young adults have never had the responsibility of working for their family's survival they do not marry to continue to survive. They are cut loose from families with no real adulthood skills, no firewall. Those, especialy females, who do not have the discipline of continuing education have reduced chances of making a good match, in part because their own bases of choosing are undeveloped. They don't think about it. "He loves me" is sufficient.