And that is the other reason I vehemently oppose in vitro. To me it's no different than abortion. In fact, in some ways it's worse. My blood ran cold when a friend of mine, who has had 2 babies by in vitro, told me she'd rather destroy (i.e. kill) their left-over embryos (i.e. unwanted babies) than to give them to someone else to raise.
I'm curious, because I contemplated in vitro quite a while back (before my fertility kicked in a little too well). I had planned on telling the doctor to only make embryos that we would actually implant me with (3 max, I guess) and implant all, no selective reductions, etc... Is that not an option? I figure if we were going to pay for it, we could set the ground rules.