Consider yourself pilloried by this man, married for 16 years.
I know nothing of this case, and am not commenting on it any more than you are. Your comments strike me as somewhat despicable, though.
Using the marriage vows as a means to get "sex on demand" is pretty low. I guess I've never understood the appeal of having sex with someone who cares not to have sex with me at that moment.
God gave you an opposable thumb for those eventualities.
Never tried to thumb it. Sounds kinky.