What an awful trauma to have to go through with that doctor. It is hard enough to stand firm in carrying out a parent's wishes when you don't have to fight really hard.
I have had the same experience with my Grandma and my parents. At least I didn't have to fight with the doctors.
The pain we go through watching, and holding our parents as they go to heaven is hard enough...
What really blew me away about this doctor tho, is that he tried to coerce me and my dad, claiming on some sort of religious grounds, that my dad 'HAD' to have the feeding tube inserted....a couple of years later, this same doctor was arrested for Medicare Fraud...my aunt sent me the newspaper articles from the local paper where she and my parents lived...it was all a big scandal...apparently this doctor had been double billing the govt for years on all hs medicare patients...
He was my mom and dads GP, to whom they went just for general health care...thankfully, when they became really ill, he with cancer, and she with Alzheimers, they went to the specialists...this GP was called in by the specialists only as a courtesy...
So this GP, seem to find on religious grounds that my dad must have the feeding tube inserted, but I guess the same GP found nothing in his religion admonishing him from stealing money from the govt, in the form of double billing...
I hope he went to jail...