[oyez]

Women don't understand why they can bitch and moan with the girls and carry on as friends, but when they bitch and moan with the men the guys part company with them. I know I never asked a chick out a second time if all she could do was crab and complain.

[pollyannaish]

Call me old fashioned, but I don't believe girls should even bitch and moan with the girls. It causes exactly what you have described. It closes people down.

Complaining to your girlfriends just reinforces your own negative perceptions and preconceived notions about men rather than allow you to see them for the individuals they are.

A girl can become a man hater by talking herself into it. Bad relationships with men become a self-fulfilling prophecy because you go in thinking everything is because "men are jerks" and you no longer look for your own culpability.

The same goes for guys. Complain that women this and women that...and you are never going to see the one that is right for you because she is wearing a stereotype she doesn't deserve.

And this goes DOUBLY for married people.