So I guess they shouldn't "tell".
(I suspect that many among these numbers got free education and training at taxpayer's expense and then "told" to end their obligation.)
Exactly right. The burden of proof is on the military. If they (gays) would keep their mouths shut everythng would presumably be ok, but if you are caught in a homosexual situation, or say "I am gay/lesbian" then of course you are suspect and the ball starts top roll. And all a member has to to is not get caught or not tell. The command doesnt ask, If you tell, its all on you and the ax will fall.
Yes. And the other poster is right - you can bring sexual relationships [male or female] into a combat unit without affecting performance [ie. causing deaths].
(I suspect that many among these numbers got free education and training at taxpayer's expense and then "told" to end their obligation.)
my thought too. also people "telling" to get out of going to war.