Those with families going back generations didn't choose this, and some of them do, in fact, find guns to their heads with all of the crime problems that didn't exist before urban influence appeared out of nowhere.
They didn't choose to live this way. They'd move to Loudoun County and then find that all the countryside surrounding them was suddenly developed, with thousands upon thousands of new homes. They voted out of office the local officials who permitted this development and elected officals who favored slow growth. But proponents of slow growth who represented the views of the people were overridden by state legislators in Richmond. Developers make very generous campaign contributions of state legislators, of course, and those legislators vote as they are told to.
And of course there are many here on FR who say that landowners (read: developers) should be permitted to develop land in any way they like, no matter how miserable it makes everybody.
They did not choose to live that way. Greedy developers and politicians forced that way of life on them.