You have a choice.
b'shem Y'shua
If you think they are not, do you suppose they feel bad about about their parents suffering forever in Hell?
(if you answer "yes" to the first question, then I guess that makes the second question irrelevant)
If each person TRULY had a choice, there would have been converts before CHrist was ever born or at least before they heard "the Word."
People don't just break out of their own cultural backgrounds, especially when they are simple, hard-working farmers much of the time. To expect some kind of "choice" to occur in these situations is silly.
Choice and free will are not wholly unchained from experience and life circumstances. The young boy who is brainwashed from birth to be a Jew-hater is likely going to grow up one. AT some point he may go another direction, but not if his ENTIRE culture is promoting that as the way to go. As with all humanity, there will be exceptions.
And putting such a horrendous choice on the moral human being is ridiculous. THe person responsible for the creation of the universe and the imperfect nature of man is God. The choice is actually His.